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The Gift Of Intuition

6/5/2023

The Gift of Intuition was the theme for our May Red Tent. We are so fortunate as women to have this gift in our tool box. Sometimes it comes on strong and sometimes it’s weak. How can we increase this gift when it’s weak, to fully leverage it? Let’s take a look at what we learned at our Red Tent.

One of the biggest blocks that prevents us from accessing our intuition is trust. How can we be sure it’s our intuition or just some anxiety we’re experiencing? Past traumas may be informing us and playing a part. In order to decipher which is which, the two main things we can do are: de-stressing (whether that’s meditation, exercise, a bubble bath, etc.) and becoming more mindful. Do a little self reflection to decipher if anxiety may be playing a part (meditation and journaling can help with that as well.)

Here are some other ways to increase our intuition or clear the way to access it more readily:

Change your routine. Doing this will help free up the daily chatter in your head to allow for more openness to hear what your intuition is saying.
Dream interpretation. Our subconscious speaks to us in our dreams. Becoming aware of this dimension will connect us to the same plane where our intuition resides.
Play with and read divination cards. This is a good way to self reflect and tap into your spirit guides which also help with your intuition.
Listen to and be in nature. Nature has a way of reminding us that everything is connected and that there is much more out there than our little lives. When we exist in this dimension, we are connected to the Greater Universal mind, which in turn connects us to our deeper selves and intuition.
Practice affirmations. Affirmations have been proven to be very effective. You can try ones like: “I trust and am guided by my intuition.” “My intuition is strong and easily accessible.”
Practice tuning into future events. Do you have an appointment coming up or an event? Try to feel into how it will go. Or you can ask yourself in the morning how your day will play out.
Notice symbols. Often, the Universe is sending us messages through symbols.
Awareness of people. Learn to read people. Try and sense what a person is all about when you first meet them. Then when you get to know them, see how you did.
Set the mood for your practice. When you’re meditating, journaling or playing with divinatory tools, be in a quiet, comfortable, private space, burn some sage, light some incense, a candle, play some soft music, etc. When you set the stage to get into a contemplative state, it’s easier to access your deeper self.
Build on your successes. Make a mental note or jot down every time your intuition is correct to build trust in it.
Make it fun. Play with it like it’s a game. The more fun it is, the more you will want to tune in.

It’s fascinating that there is a physical reason for our intuition! There are actually three reasons!

The vagus nerve. Visceral feelings and gut instincts are literally emotional intuitions transferred up to your brain via the vagus nerve.
Each and every one of our cells has a membrane or a mem”brain.” Each membrane has a receptor and an effector protein. The receptor protein acts like antennae, putting out feelers and gathering information. The effector protein processes that information and sends it to the brain. From the book Spontaneous Evolution by Bruce Liption and Steve Bhaerman.
The right brain. “According to Dr. Orloff, scientists believe intuition operates through the entire right side of our brain, the brain’s hippocampus and through our gut (digestive system has neurons as well). And this is where it gets interesting for us ladies. Women’s corpus callosum, the connective white matter that connects our left and right brain hemispheres together, is thicker than men’s. This more substantial brain super highway gives us women better and faster abilities to access each hemisphere, further integrating our emotion and gut feelings with the more logical left hemisphere into our decision making process. Basically women’s brains have superpowers and are actually optimized for rapid intuitive decision making. “Women are also psychologically more in touch with their emotions (perhaps because they’ve been given more cultural permission to be this way) and are more likely to integrate hunches, emotional ‘hits’ about people and logic. Because men have a thinner corpus callosum they are more compartmentalized in their thinking and less about to move back and forth from intuition to logic.” Forbes, The Science Behind Intuition

Increasing access to our intuition or strengthening it elevates the divine feminine. The more we respect and honor our feminine gifts, the more we will see reflections of it out in the world.

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Downtown Portland

5/20/2023

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I wanted to address the concerns some people may have about coming downtown where our new space is. There’s been a lot of negative talk about our beautiful city in the past few months. While our city may be hurting like a few other big cities, it’s not as bad as some people make it out to be. I’ve had my store, The Fossil Cartel downtown for 33 years. I’ve seen a lot of changes. In all of those 33 years, I have never been harassed or had any bad thing happen to me. I want to assure you it is safe, but at the same time encourage you to have your wits about you as you would in any big city.

There is street parking often right in front of the space or at least on the same block. There is also a Smart Park Garage right next door. The cost of street parking is $2/hr., but only from 8am-7pm Mon.-Sat. and 1pm-7pm on Sunday. Our circles start at 7:00pm normally, so street parking will be free.

I always pictured a Moondays Red Tent space in more of an old residential area. Perhaps some day it will be. For now, we are taking advantage of the free space that has been offered to us. It’s a great opportunity to experiment with our model and work things out. There are advantages to being downtown: it’s a central location, there are great restaurants, shops, cafes, clubs, shows, markets, etc. nearby. You can make a whole day out of coming downtown for a Red Tent! Downtown needs our love. The more people come back downtown, the faster things will improve.

I welcome your comments or concerns before, during, and after this upcoming Red Tent on May 27th about this subject. I want everyone to feel safe and free to let go into a nourishing evening of sisterhood and community, so please always keep us informed about how we can best support that. We look forward to seeing your beautiful faces soon!

Photo credit: Laura Ramirez

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Moondays Update

5/20/2023

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Greetings, Moondays Community,

I wanted to send an update on what’s going on with our new space for Moondays
I’d like to transition away from using my house so that I may fulfill my original vision of having a dedicated space for Red Tents and all sorts of other events for women. The space we will be using is next to my store, The Fossil Cartel, in downtown Portland. The landlord is allowing me to use it for free until they find a new renter. Originally, the space was planned for a couple of psychic salons a month for the customers in my store. I then had the idea of hosting Moondays events in the space. The landlord agreed to one circle per month and he asked that no alcohol be consumed on the property. Our first circle there will be May 27th, so please save the date!

I’ve had a deep yearning for several years now to gather women, form a community and have healing, nourishing, and inspiring events with Moondays. The events we’ve had over the past 8 years have fulfilled that need to some degree, but I want more. I pine for a space we can call our own and have as many events as we want. Do you have the same desire? From my experience in leading circles and other events over all these years, it seems the answer is “yes!”
If we were to actually rent a space so that we can have as many events as we would like, the questions then become:

Would you be willing to pay for a monthly membership to be a part of this amazing community?
Will the community be willing to volunteer a little bit of their time in lieu of having employees?

These days, it’s very difficult to find employees and the cost of having staff has become so high. It seems the only viable way a Moondays brick and mortar would work, would be to have its members contribute a little of their time. Imagine we are creating a new paradigm, or “disrupting” the market. You know how we “vote with our dollars?” How about we vote for things that bring meaning into our lives?

Here are some options for what you might expect in the near future:

Option #1: Monthly membership

We’d keep the cost low, $20/mo
Includes:
- one circle per month plus two other types of events for free
- an online forum where members can interact with each other
- events and opportunities to promote yourself and your business
- The option to rent the space for your own event at a 50% discount
- Low-cost trainings on how to lead circles

Members would be asked to volunteer 1 hour every month. Volunteer jobs could include:
- Door check-in
- Event set up, take down/clean up
- Facilitate or lead events
- Marketing or social media assistance
- Other skills you might have that we have not listed here. Let us know!

Option #2: pay as you go

A la carte for the events you’d like to attend
Events cost more because they would include the cost of a month’s membership plus a fee for the event.

We’re enthusiastic about trying, if you’re also enthusiastic about helping us make this happen. Please let us know your thoughts! We wouldn’t be able to start this model out right away since the landlord only agreed to one circle per month. We’re hoping we can encourage them to allow us to have more events in the space.
Meanwhile, until we get the okay from the landlord to have more events, we’re going to start with one circle per month at the normal rate of $22 that you pay on the website.
Please save the date for our first Red Tent in the new space, Saturday, May 27th!

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Goddess Swim 2021

8/10/2021

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Hanging out with my best friend in her pool on hot days growing up in Long Island are some of my favorite summer memories. We relaxed on floaties in the sun, cooled by the sparkling blue water, jabbering and giggling away while listening to great 70s music. I’m fortunate as an adult to have my own pool and invite girlfriends over, re-creating those good times. The combination of a body of water and feminine energy is the best! They go hand in hand. The Divine Feminine is all about flow after all, and as women, that’s what we do.

The Goddess Swim always falls close to Women’s Equality day. I like to bring it up in discussion at the event so we can reflect on how we and women in general are doing in our quest to attain equality. If I look back to the decade I was a kid hanging out at my BFF’s pool, we have come a considerable way on some levels and on others, we still have a ways to go.

In the early 70s, talented singer Betty Davis exuded a raw, uninhibited sexual energy that shocked and turned people off, preventing her from attaining more notoriety. These days, that kind of energy is celebrated, as exhibited by women performers like Cardi B.
In the 1970s sexual harassment in the workplace was just part of the job. Today, harassers are being being fired, prosecuted and publicly shamed thanks to the #MeToo movement.

Although traditional gender roles have been reversed in my own home, with my husband the homemaker and me the breadwinner, the majority of women in this country still carry the burden of taking care of the home on top of working and having careers. Although there are more women in government than ever before, we still fall way short of our 51% of the population. Here are some of the numbers from the Center for American Women in Politics at Rutgers University:
“Women are 51% of the population in the U.S. but make up only:

24% of the U.S. Senate
27% of the U.S. House of Representatives
30% of statewide elected executives
31% of state legislative seats
23% of mayors in cities with populations over 30,000
0% of presidents of the United States

For certain demographics, the numbers are even worse:Women of color, Republican women, young women, and low-income women are especially underrepresented.”
Come to the Goddess Swim to be with some sisters and have fun, celebrate how far we’ve come and fortify ourselves for the future! It’s better together. More info about this year's Goddess Swim here. Come join us!

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The Father Wound

7/16/2020

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The Father Wound

My dad used to hang air fresheners with pinups on them in his car when I was growing up. When the sun hit them, their clothes would disappear and the women would be naked. Clearly he thought sexy women were good. But when it came to two of my female teenage cousins dressing provocatively, my dad thought that was bad. Talk about a double standard! What kind of message was I taking from that as I grew up?

He moved out of our house and abandoned me when I was 15 and left me to live with my severely bipolar mom. He did at least make sure I had money, food and clothing. He never showed me any affection, yet somehow I knew he loved me.

We often hear about the mother wound, but seldom the father wound. I know from my experience I definitely have grappled with wounds from my father, and I know countless others have had to deal with these wounds as well. It makes sense considering the patriarchy has been so toxic for both women and men for generations upon generations.

These father wounds show up in our lives in various forms. How has it shown up for you? The father represents the divine masculine principles within us. Ideally, the divine masculine is there to support the divine feminine. Have you been able to trust the men in your life? Have you had dysfunctional relationships with men? Have you beaten yourself up for not “achieving” enough? These are just some of the ways these wounds can show up.

It’s important to work to heal these wounds in order to have our inner (and outer) masculine support our inner feminine in a healthy way. It’s easy to ignore doing internal work, but we’ll never grow without it. If we don’t heal ourselves and allow ourselves to blossom, the planet won’t heal either. We and the planet are all connected.

When we’re in circle, we get to bring these kinds of issues to the surface, explore them and begin to work them out. Each time we meet in circle, we get stronger, heal, and expand our potentials. And even if you’ve already done a lot of work, there’s usually a few more layers to the onion that can be peeled back.

I’ve done a lot of internal work around the Father Wound, but recently had another breakthrough at the last circle I attended. I used to be very unhappy about the fact that my dad never showed me any affection. Through one of our circle exercises, I came to realize that he didn’t get any affection from his parents, either! He was just loving me the only way he knew how. Realizing this allowed me to forgive him more deeply.

What will be your next epiphany? Come to circle and find your own healing and expansion! Heal yourself, help heal each other and help heal the world!

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Message From The Council Of 13 Indigenous Grandmothers

4/2/2020

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I remember being really angry at humanity when I was a kid. People were polluting the earth and I was worried about the future. Then one day, in elementary school on my way to the lunch cafeteria, I saw these huge signs plastered on all of the windows that read, “RECYCLE!” Big chills went up and down my spine. I was overjoyed. There were people that cared about the planet, after all!

Learning about traditional Native American cultures in school also opened my eyes. They seemed to not only care about the planet, but they worshiped Mother Earth in all of her divine feminine glory. I yearned to be connected to others who cared about our Great Mother.

In my early 20s, I had the great fortune of spending time with a Navajo family in their home on their remote reservation in Canyon DeChelly, Arizona. It was a once-in-a-lifetime experience where they gave me and two girlfriends a tour of the canyon and initiated us into their family during a powwow they put on just for us. They even let us sleep in a hogan! We had such an incredible experience there. I felt intensely connected to nature and spirit unlike ever before, a high I never wanted to come out of. I vowed to take that feeling with me and do whatever I could to keep the sacred earth/spirit connection alive in my life.

Recently I came across this message from the Council of 13 Indigenous Grandmothers I wanted to share with you, addressing these trying times as we deal with this global pandemic:

http://www.grandmotherscouncil.org/
"As you move through these changing times... be easy on yourself and be easy on one another. You are at the beginning of something new. You are learning a new way of being. You will find that you are working less in the yang modes that you are used to.
You will stop working so hard at getting from point A to point B the way you have in the past, but instead, will spend more time experiencing yourself in the whole, and your place in it.
Instead of traveling to a goal out there, you will voyage deeper into yourself. Your mother's grandmother knew how to do this. Your ancestors from long ago knew how to do this. They knew the power of the feminine principle... and because you carry their DNA in your body, this wisdom and this way of being is within you.
Call on it. Call it up. Invite your ancestors in. As the yang based habits and the decaying institutions on our planet begin to crumble, look up. A breeze is stirring. Feel the sun on your wings."

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Free Online Red Tent Summit!

1/19/2020

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Five years ago, I attended this phenomenal online Red Tent summit hosted by DeAnna Lam. It helped fuel my desire and gave me the courage to facilitate my own Red Tents. I am honored to be one of the speakers this year! Please join us. Sign up HERE.

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Celebrating 30 Years as a Business Owner

12/8/2019

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I celebrated my 30th anniversary this year with my store! Here are some reflections on the journey and our year.

A common response from a customer hearing we’re celebrating our 30th anniversary at The Fossil Cartel: “30 years?! What were you, 12 when you started?” Of course it makes me feel good that at 58, I don’t look quite as old as the fossils in my store...yet. :-) When I first started at 28, people would incredulously ask, “You’re the OWNER?!” I suppose 28 is a little on the young side for being a business owner, but I always wondered if it also had to do with the fact that I was a woman. Fast forward 30 years, if my husband happens to be in the store helping me out, people -- especially men -- often approach him assuming he’s the owner, even though I am standing right there. It doesn’t really bother my ego, but it does show me that misogyny is still a thing, and that’s a problem. I see it as a symptom of the greater malady of dishonoring the feminine principle, from raping women to violating Mother Earth, causing her to become uninhabitable.

In order to reverse course, bring balance and heal this world, women need to take responsibility and take action. The powers that be in our patriarchal society will not do it for us. One of the best ways to empower women and amplify the feminine is to bring women together for that purpose. Besides running The Fossil Cartel, for the past 5 years I’ve been gathering women by hosting Red Tent women’s circles and other events through my Moondays project.

Another way we can honor the divine feminine is to appreciate all of her beauty and mystery. I have always appreciated crystals and fossils as some of the most amazing treasures, gifts from the Great Mother. I hope others honor them the same way. I still delight in seeing faces light up in the store as people marvel about what they are seeing, holding and hearing about. Being able to actually see, touch and hear about something you’re considering purchasing has got to be better in so many ways than shopping online. Plus you’re supporting a local small business!

It’s been a really great 30th anniversary year for us. With all of our celebrations, contests, special promotions, having Nicolas Cage shop in the store, and being on TV, we’ve had a lot of fun and got to connect more with all of you. I am so grateful to all our customers for appreciating the mineral and fossil kingdom as much as we do. Thank you for continuing to keep us in business all these years! May we all tread softly and treat Mother Earth kindly, so she may continue to provide a wondrous, bountiful, beautiful home for us all.
Here are the links for the two segments we were in, on the show More Good Day Oregon:
https://www.kptv.com/good_day_oregon/more/rare-and-unique-finds-at-the-fossil-cartel/video_59c9b05c-c0c1-5147-8814-afff14c55224.html
https://www.kptv.com/good_day_oregon/more/holiday-gift-ideas-that-will-rock-your-world/video_3848a274-b38a-574e-9567-73f0a345374a.html

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The Importance of Voting

10/30/2019

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If we want to dismantle the patriarchy, we have to attack it from all angles. I started a list of the various things we can do towards that end a couple of blog posts back. Since Election Day is right around the corner, it’s time to focus on the importance of voting. Many women fought for the right for us to vote over 100 years ago. Let’s not let all their hard work be for naught. Let’s not disappoint them and our fellow sisters.

Sometime after 1896, suffragette Alice Stone Blackwell wrote this list of 16 reasons women should be given the right to vote. Among the many excellent reasons: “Because the moral, educational, and humane legislation desired by women would be got more easily if women had votes…. Because laws unjust to women would be amended more quickly.... Because it would increase the moral and law-abiding vote very much, while increasing the vicious and criminal vote very little.” We HAVE THE RIGHT TO VOTE NOW! Let’s use it!!!!

I’ll admit I’m guilty of not voting much when I was younger. I never got into politics and didn’t have the energy to try and figure out who or what to vote for when it came down to it. The older I got -- and special thanks to the awful administration in power now -- the more I saw the importance of it. Now there are multiple sources to help us with voting, in case your excuse to not vote is that it could be very confusing. Take any local publication that you read and align with. Most of them will publish their opinions on who and what to vote for. From their explanations, you can do a little more research and make your own decisions. Research is so easy now with the internet! Just please make sure your information is coming from a trusted source.
In an editorial piece written for the Hearst newspapers in 1917, the writer was spot on when he said the following:
“When women shall vote, the political influence of the good men in the community will be greatly increased. There is no doubt whatever that women, in their voting, will be influenced by the men whom they know. But there is also no doubt that they will be influenced by the GOOD men whom they know. Men can deceive each other much more easily than they can deceive women -- the latter being providentially provided with the X-ray of intuitional perception.”
And then there’s the issue of there not being enough women in politics. If we want to see more women representing us, we have to vote them in.
Please let our excellent judgment and influence not go to waste! Please help upend the patriarchy and VOTE!

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The Value of Economic Independence

10/14/2019

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A few weeks ago, I wrote about ways we can dismantle the patriarchy. One of my main points was, be or become economically independent (being interdependent is fine, too -- just don’t put all your eggs in someone else’s basket).

This was always such a basic one for me. I’ve heard countless stories of women who depended on their husband’s income and then upon divorce, believed their only option for survival was finding another husband. Even though this situation is more rare these days, I still hear women say every once in a while, “I wish I could find a rich husband.” Even if they are half serious or only joking, it is disconcerting they’d even have that thought in their consciousness. It means they feel like they don’t have the ability to create the kind of life they desire on their own and the only power they have is the aptitude of attracting men. That’s the old paradigm.

It might be fun for a while to have a free ride, but there’s nothing that equals the feeling of accomplishment by generating your own income and being able to take care of yourself financially. That feeling of accomplishment translates into confidence. This combination of capability and confidence gives us power! These are the kind of things we need to upend the patriarchy. Plus there’s really no such thing as a “free ride.” We wind up paying for it in other ways.

I was in a tight spot myself when I was in my 20s. I was living hand-to-mouth, on the road in a small RV with my then boyfriend. We often didn’t know where our next meal was going to come from. After four years, I was ready to go my separate way, but didn’t have any money put aside for renting a place. I had no idea what I was going to do and felt very trapped. Luckily, I happened upon the book Creative Visualization by Shakti Gawain. I practiced a couple of the visualizations from the book twice a day for a month to manifest the two things that would help me become independent: a house to buy for myself and a bead store to own. Long story short, I wound up manifesting those two things which eventually brought me financial independence.

How are you doing in this arena? Do you need help?

Here is some suggested reading: