Occasionally I get questions or comments about why I ask women to come dressed “feminine.” Some criticize that I would be excluding some women. This is unfortunate since it is just a suggestion and not a requirement. I like to think of it as being similar to going to a Halloween party where the host asks you to wear a costume, but if you don’t feel like it, you don’t have to. Really, all dress is some form of costume and carries with it many symbols. I have nothing against women wearing “masculine” clothes. I myself mostly wear pants in the fall and winter. Women who prefer more “masculine” dress can either come to our Red Tent wearing anything they’d like, or they can put aside their daily duds and don a costume of femininity – however they’d like to define it.
I myself like to define feminine clothing as soft and flowing with pleasing colors. My definition doesn’t include spike heels (bad for your body!) or plunging necklines (although I have nothing against plunging necklines -- we should be proud of our breasts!). A colleague recently suggested I use the term “goddess attire” and to look at it as a means of self-expression, to embody the goddess in order to feel a certain way. I really like the term “goddess attire.” This could be my answer to not offending some women with the currently charged term “feminine.”
We would love your feedback in general and also specifically on how you define feminine attire.